COLLEGE LIFE:
In college, you learn to be more independent. It happens the
moment you move in the dorms. You have to learn to do things
on your own. There's no one there to remind you or nag you to
do things. If you forget or miss an appointment, meeting, or
class - it's you fault. Your "mommy" is not going to be there
to hold your hand and walk you through the process or be there
to do any last minute scrambling around to fix your mistakes.
It's almost like the minute you walk in the dorm you're on
your own. It's not a gradual process where you do it
step-by-step. You're let loose to take care of yourself and
all your responsibilities you have when you're on your own.
This is the point in life when you realize that you're taking
your parents for granted because all the things that mom and
dad used to do for you and take care of are now your
responsibility. It's things like washing left-over dishes
after meals, taking out the trash everyday, vacuuming the
room, dusting the furniture, washing and ironing the clothes,
and just the overall maintenance of the place. In the first
few days you'll be overwhelmed with all the things that your
parents used to take care of that are now your
responsibility. And you have to remember that you still have
classes and have to eat and study.
You have to remember everything for yourself, no one will
remind you or nag you like mom and dad used to. Since they're
not there to remind you or nag you you to do everything,
you'll have to learn this valuable skill called TIME
MANAGEMENT. I went to half-day orientations and paid one
hundred dollars to hear everyone talk about the importance of
time management when I've been hearing this from my mom and
dad for free. This is when you finally realize that mom and
dad have been right all along; even when you don't want to
hear it just listen because there's truth in everything that
they say.
It's not all serious stuff in college. One of the good things
about college is that you live away from home and have no
curfew. You become responsible for yourself, therefore no one
can really tell you what to do or what not to do. The choice
becomes yours and yours alone. It just seems so weird to me
that even though I have no curfew in Irvine I choose to stay
in the dorms and study. Everyone knows that when I was in San
Diego I was always going out and staying out late. But its
totally opposite for me in Irvine. Where I live there's a
mall about 10 - 15 minutes in every direction, so I could be
hanging out there as much as I want. But instead, I choose to
stay in the dorm. I guess it's because I know I have to take
care of business before I can have fun. I'd rather study now
and party later because I know that all the studying will
eventually pay off.
DORM LIVING:
Wow, this sounds like a rough topic right now. Mostly you
learn to live with other people who grew up differently than
you did and have different backgrounds. They also have
different personalities, grew up with different rules, and
have different values than you. You have to learn top adjust
to each other, meet each other halfway so you can live
together.
If you have a room-mate that you don't know, I suggest that
you try and contact them before you move in the dorms together
so you can get acquainted with them as soon as possible and
know exactly what you're getting into beforehand. Just some
really good advice for those planning to live in the dorms.
Set some ground rules as soon as possible and put them in a
written contract so everyone follows them. As long as there
are some guidelines to live by no one will ever over-step
their bounds.
Don't ever be afraid to speak up or bring up issues with your
room-mates otherwise your room-mate may try to take advantage
of you and walk all over you. I'm glad I'm the type of person
who addresses the problem when it happens so that there won't
be any problems that are being dragged on for days or even
weeks. Don't worry about putting your foot down and look like
the bad guy when things aren't being dealt with fairly, or
else you'll be unhappy from that point on. It's better that
way in order to have equal rights and authority when it comes
to living conditions or issues in the dorm.
Unlike everyone else living at home, you may not have access
to all the luxuries that you had before. You may not have
enough room for everything or you or your room-mates did not
bring some things, such as television, stereo, pots, or pans,
etc. You don't even have your own private bathroom or shower,
so you have to learn to take turns. This means you also have
to learn to share and limit your time in the bathroom. In
addition to that, you also have to share the privileges to the
internet and the phone. On most campuses, there are Ethernet
connections where students do not have to use their telephone
lines to connect to the internet. Unfortunately, my dorm does
not have that yet so I have to use my telephone line to
connect to AOL. It's a real hassle since one of my room-mates
always picks up the phone when I'm either on the phone or the
internet. Therefore, I am booted off-line and its real hard
to get back on since Irvine has only two access lines for
AOL. Oh well, that's life, well for now anyway.
COLLEGE
CLASSES:
College classes are extremely different from high school
classes. You can't just study to get by anymore. Instead,
you have to study and remember everything for finals. It's
not like in high school where everything was covered in class
is the only thing you have to study for the final. Now you
have to study everything in the book, even though it wasn't
covered in the lecture. Don't believe the rumors about
college. Rumors that they don't take attendance or there's no
homework. Those rumors are false. They still take attendance
and they give homework, and plenty of it.
Classes at UC Irvine are extremely competitive. Some people
like me, think because they took several college level or
honors classes in high school they'd have an easy time in
college. WRONG! Those classes may help put you slightly
ahead when school starts but the intensity of those classes is
nothing compared to the actual college class. It's as though
all the information that I gained in 2 semesters of high
school chemistry, I reviewed in my general chemistry during
fall quarter alone. I have two words that would be of
tremendous importance to those soon-to-be college freshmen -
TIME MANAGEMENT! Remember those two words and practice it
habitually and you'll do fine. I haven't mastered that quite
yet. I still have to work on it. Just remember to practice
good time management skills, study 2 hours for every 1 hour of
lecture you attend and most importantly . . . DON'T
PROCRASTINATE!!!
Just some advice I would give to those who will be applying to
colleges or attending college in the near future. Don't get
discouraged because you feel intimidated by the professor or
other students who seem to be doing better than you. Don't
ever give up so easily. College is really tough and
competitive so just keep trying and stay focused and
determined. Give everything your 100% effort and you'll get
out what you put in. Just don't push yourself too hard or
you'll burn out quickly and it may even pull you behind
because you'll be too sick to study. Also, try to work in
groups or get help. Don't ever feel ashamed because you need
help or tutoring. In college, it's the only way you'll fully
understand the material because the tutors break down what is
taught during lectures. Tutors in college are mostly for
those who want to succeed, not those who are behind, although
they can be usd for that purpose too.
CAFETERIA FOOD:
Another tough topic, just kidding. Well just keep in mind
that this is from the perspective of an extremely fussy
eater. The food here is okay. It may not be the best in the
world, but it is better than Jr. High cafeteria food. It
makes you appreciate the food you have at home, even the foods
you got tired of eating so much. I know at my house we'd eat
the same types of food all the time and I'd get tired of it.
But being here makes me want to go back to eating the same
dishes repeatedly. Actually, I'd say that the cafeteria food
here isn't all that bad, you just have to get used to it. I
can't say that I got used to eating the food here because I
would get fast food if I didn't like it. I'd go to the dorm
cafeteria and try and eat something there but if I don't eat
the kind of food that they have I'd go and buy some fast
food. I would try not to buy fast food as much as possible to
save money but it's hard because it tastes so much better than
dorm food. Money in college is pretty scarce but I manage to
squeeze a few more dollars out of my pockets and my parents'
pockets as well. That's another thing you learn in college
and living on you own - how to budget money. You can't always
be asking mom and dad for money because the cost of living in
the dorm, books, parking, and tuition are expensive. My dorm
alone costs $1700 per quarter and tuition is about $1300 per
quarter (depending on the amount of units taken). You just
have to chooses when you're going to eat out and when you're
going to eat in the cafeteria. Sometimes its okay to eat out
because you need a change in food. Just don't get used to it
because it will eventually add up later. |